Addiction does not happen in isolation. The behaviors that surround it do not occur by themselves. Your addiction affects the people around you. Your friends and family will also suffer because of that. A friend or family member of an addict is put in a very difficult position. You want to help but you can’t until the addicted person stops denying the problem and decides they need to get help in a luxury rehab center.
Loss of Relationship
When you are the friend or family member of an addict, you begin to lose the relationship you had with them. Because they have changed, and their priorities have changed, their ability to relate to you in the way they always did changes too. You find yourself in a relationship with a person who looks like the one you love but doesn’t remotely act like them.
You may lament about this relationship, as you look at the shell of the person you loved before you. They will be so locked up in their addiction that they will feel no need to acknowledge the changes in the relationship.
A friend or family member of an addict may begin to take on the role of caregiver to the addict. Addicts are susceptible to illnesses and diseases. You will take on this role because you feel an obligation to the person they once were and believe that if you help them they can get better. This is normal human instinct. But in becoming a caregiver you cease to be a friend or family member.
Caregiving can be a great burden. It can take a toll on your own health as well. You become so focused on the needs of the addict that you care for that you forget to care for yourself.
You might as a friend or family member of an addict find yourself having to protect the addict by doing things you would not normally do. This includes ‘covering’ for the addict when they are unable to go to work, lying to other friends and family and telling them everything is okay or taking over their responsibilities such as caring for their children.
Worse still, you may find yourself coerced into the role of enabler. This is when your own conscious or sub-conscious behavior contributes to the addict’s addiction.
Exposure to abuse
When addicts need money, they will do just about anything to get it. If you stand in their way, there is a good chance they will become abusive towards you. This is particularly true if you have enabled them in the past by giving them money or not acting when they have stolen money from you.
The abuse you could be subjected to might take the form of physical abuse (assault), verbal abuse (name-calling and threats) or emotional (attempts to emotionally blackmail you). If immediate intervention does not follow an act of abuse, it is likely to worsen.
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